That strange and slightly offensive phrase is being used to describe Angelina Jolie… who apparently (according to media reports) has started another adoption – this time of a boy from Czech Republic.
A source close to the celebrity couple said: “Angelina celebrated her 32nd birthday yesterday and had told Brad she felt it was time to extend their family again.”
“Her maternal instincts are in overdrive and she felt a bond with the kid straight away.
She called Brad and said she had found a child who would fit in perfectly with the other kids.”
First let me say I completely understand her mother’s heart. And I can imagine that if I had the resources and traveled the world as she does I would also be tempted to adopt a children from orphanages all over the world. But I really think it’s too soon. She only brought Pax home from Vietnam a couple of months ago. And that was on the heels of the birth of Shiloh, who just turned one a couple of weeks ago.
It’s taken us seven months to get to a point that feels really normal and bonded and while I think our family is complete, even if I didn’t I think it would be too soon to adopt another child. (Perhaps if I knew it would be a long wait I would start the process again at this point, but I wouldn’t be looking to bring a child home next week.) I just think that Pax is not going to get what he needs – nor will this new child – if another child is brought into the family so soon after Pax. I know people do it. I know Angelina has more resources – financially and nanny-wise – than the average person. But I still think it’s too much, too soon.
And by the way, Angelina met the child while working on a film in Prague… what happened to her so called vow “to to focus on her growing family and be a stay-at-home mom”? I am not judging anyone who works outside the home, but last I checked a two month break in between films does not exactly fit the general description of a stay at home mom. I’m just sayin’.
And that’s your entertainment blogging for Saturday!
June 9, 2007 at 9:54 am |
OK, I guess I am a serial coffee drinker then. What a wierd way to describe someone.
June 9, 2007 at 11:20 am |
Yeah, I read the same stuff about her and I had the very same thoughts you did. I think it’s too soon, but I’ve read not only the “report” about the child in Prague but in other interviews where she’s supposedly said she’s ready to adopt again and possibly have another biological child again within the next year or so. That’s great that she loves being a mother and has the resources to do so, have help, etc. But it is in the best interests of her children to keep adding and adding, without really taking the time to ensure the current children are ready and adjusted? Ugh. Yeah, “serial mother” is offensive and just tacky, though when it comes to how it’s applied here, to Angelina, I kinda get it…
June 9, 2007 at 12:47 pm |
Wow….that IS fast! Maybe she just totally felt a connection with this particular child….then again people are saying she was talking about having another child before meeting him anyway. I don’t know. This is really fast. I have had 7 children in 14 years and no problems at all with each child feeling important and secure but this just seems wrong to me. Everything Angelia does though is a bit extreme. Seems like she’s on a mission.
By the way….we are done…Bronte has totally completed our family. Never even dreamed we’d have 7 children but something kept telling me there was another out there. Like someone was missing. That feeling is gone. I knew it when I first saw her face.
~Michelle
June 9, 2007 at 3:34 pm |
I’m not sure what I think. On one hand it is really fast for an entire family to transition through everything they do. However, assuming they love and nurture each of their children, the kids are in a better place than they were. I know that can be dangerous thinking, because you don’t just want to throw children from orphanages into homes simply to get them out of where they are. But it appears that they provide a loving atmosphere for their children, and financially they have the resources. If they are devoted, loving parents and they feel their family is ready maybe it is time. I guess I’ve known a few families that have had their kids very close together and those families seem to do well enough.
June 9, 2007 at 5:40 pm |
What is she thinking????
I have moments when looking at Khai I think-wow-I love him so much, I want to love another one….
The difference is that I don’t have the resources to act on my impluses——-which is a good thing, b/c he needs me to be his mommy.
June 9, 2007 at 5:46 pm |
Wow! I hadn’t read that yet. That really is quick. It is a tacky phrase, but I can see where it’s been stuck on her. When do her kids have time to feel special and bond? I guess it’s easy to judge when your on the outside looking in. Who knows, she may be the best mother in the entire world. Although it does seem like she’s out to be THE mother of at least an orphan from every part of the entire world. I can’t say that if I didn’t have the money she does that I wouldn’t end up with a lot more kids too!
June 9, 2007 at 7:58 pm |
No way–money and nannys don’t make up for what a kid needs–time with Mommy. I don’t see how it is in any of the children’s best interest to add to the family so quickly.
June 10, 2007 at 4:41 am |
Oh, who knows if she is saying this. But, this is a lot of kids in a short amount of time. One wouldnt reccommend bringing that many new anything into the house- kittens, puppies, grandmas. . .
June 11, 2007 at 3:48 am |
I think the media has tricked us all…
I just read a ‘clearing the air’ interview.
1. she is working for 2 months and then is taking a year off
2. she said she is NOT adopting anytime soon, they have 4 children one newly adopted as an ‘older child’ who need her and Brad etc.
So, I think sadly the media ran with a story that doesn’t seem to be true….
June 11, 2007 at 6:53 am |
First off (as I am sure we all agree) it is her own business what she does, but it does make you think.
I have always admired families such as the DeBolts, Silcocks, and Doss who adopted any child that needed a home, that was a good fit, and came their way.
The only thing about it that bothers me a little bit is that the Chez Republic isn’t exactly open for adoptions to everyday people like us, so once again it causes you to think special treatment.
http://travel.state.gov/family/adoption/country/country_371.html
Right now China wants designer parents and few people can meet those requirements. Korea wants married couples. There are years of lines of families waiting for Vietnam. EE is up in the air and the agencies can’t get the accreditation straighten out. Guat is up in the air with how the Hague requirements are going to pan out. Nepal and Haiti are always up in the air with their tumultuous governments. So as I see it Taiwan, Kaz & Kyz, are possibilities and Ethiopia a sure thing.
It is nice if you have a child from every country by chance, but to do it on purpose is a bit like collecting children, and that seems wrong. So I don’t know why she didn’t try Ethiopia again. It seems the need and availability are greatest in Ethiopia right now.
Then again, it’s a little boy that needs a home and will now find one with sibs and loving parents.
June 11, 2007 at 7:02 am |
Kate: Thanks for posting the new info. It’s hard to know what to believe – AJ also announced several times that she was *not* adopting from Vietnam and then like a month later brought her son home. (She said she lied to protect his privacy). But I hope that she is telling the truth – heaven knows the media have certainly gotten their facts wrong many times before!!